Grief is a Strange Thing

To my Good-morning Girl

As a person with autism, I tend to need a minute to process things. I've found that the larger the thing, the longer I need. For example, if my favorite shaker cup gets broken, I'll be upset and move on within a day (or so). An argument with a friend or spouse, I usually need a week. But something like losing my dog... that's a big thing. I find I dissociate, distract myself, until something makes me come face to face with that loss again. I've been thinking of her lately. She taught me many things and helped me grow. As we grow though we no longer are wo we once where. So what about losing who you once where?

I don't think people realize that you should also grieve losing parts of yourself. If you are continuously growing, you won't be the same person you once were, and that's okay. But you have to let that person go. Otherwise, anytime you try and chase your dreams, that ghost of you will come back and haunt you. They will remind you of all the things that they were not capable of. But not You. You are capable of these things now because you are no longer that person. You have grown, you have planned, and you know what needs to be done.

So grieve who you once were so you can celebrate who you are becoming.